Posts Tagged ‘Friends with Benefits’

Today, my roommate and I have sworn off guys for good. And what kind of women would we be at this point if we didn’t turn on the TV desperately hoping for a funny sitcom or movie to be on to distract us from our hopeless situations? Conveniently enough, E! is playing “He’s Just Not That Into You”. Ha, this is such a cruel, cruel world.

The romantic comedy only stings because the truth of the matter, is that he is just not that into me, or you, or her, or any female friend that is nothing more than a late night text, right? Or is that wrong? Are we over-reading and misinterpreting signals from guys? Is it right to write them off as douche bags when they are just as confused as we are?

This crazy confusion typically comes into play in friends with benefits situations. The two of you sleep together and he doesn’t text you the next day so, boom, he’s automatically one of “those guys” only after “one thing and one thing only.” That’s how most young females see it, and understandably so. If you two don’t talk as much as you fool around, then he is not after anything more than a late night smoosh buddy.  But, what if he is just as confused by the hookup situation as you are? Many guys wait for us to text them first, because they don’t exactly know what to say, and don’t see it fit to continuously talk to a female they haven’t deemed as their girlfriend. Also, be conscious of the fact that if you initiate sex just as avidly as he does, and will text him at similar hours for such deeds, he could see the relationship as simply just platonic hook-up buddies, even if he wants more.

Listen ladies; moral of the story is to take it for what it is. There is no point in trying to over analyze a good or fun situation. If you two enjoy one another’s company, and have fun hooking up, then what’s the problem with being sex friends? As long as you don’t find yourself writing out his last name on your LIT notebook, then you should be in the clear.

Ride it out and soon enough, it will be clear whether the two of you are Ashton Kutcher and Natalie Portman sex-friends, or just looking for different things.

-Deanna Viel

Earlier this week, Mila Kunis agreed on live television to take Sgt. Scott Moore, a marine, up on his request to bring her to his Marine Corps Ball in November. He posted a YouTube video asking her to come, and had his marine buddies pass it along far enough to reach her. Kunis was prompted to accept his invitation by her “Friends with Benefits” co-star Justin Timberlake who said, “Do it for your country.” No pressure or anything, right? She then said to Justin, “I’ll do it for you. Will you come?” Instead, he told her that she had to do it on her own and for her country, so she had to go without him.

Now I don’t know about you, but if I were that marine, first of all, I wouldn’t post such a douchey video where I never once take my sunglasses off. Second of all, I’d feel a little embarrassed that she’s asking Justin Timber-flake to go with her when I was the one who invited her in the first place. Regardless, it is a really cute idea, and I personally had both fingers crossed for him. But as heart-warming and kind as the story is, as of July 13th Mila was forced to formally decline the invitation due to too much traveling during November, despite originally saying yes.

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