Posts Tagged ‘acceptance’

After being on campus for only a couple months, it is clear to me, a freshman, who runs Syracuse University. But, then again, it’d be just as clear to a detached and completely uninterested bystander because it’s that obnoxiously apparent. It’s not the world-class professors, the generous alumni, the smarty-pants Newhouse students, or even the famous Division I athletes. Instead, it’s the “sisters” and “brothers” of the school.

Those who participate in Greek life here at Syracuse are at the top of the totem pole, and they are not discrete in proving this. Walking through the SU campus is like taking a lap around the “It’s a Small World After All” Disneyland ride, our student body is just that diverse. There is, however, one thread of commonality that’s visible on the ‘Cuse campus–an aspect of college culture, made obvious by its loyal society members: letters.

Big, flashy, printed, sneering letters–in Greek, of course. These letters of the Ancient Greek alphabet are used to mark the dozens of different fraternities and sororities here in the 315, and are seemingly everywhere on campus. They are staring you in the face as you make your way to class or grab a bite to eat, a brutal, stuck-up and unfair reminder that whoever has those letters plastered on his or her chest is part of an elite association that you are not a part of.


When you can’t forgive, forget; when you can’t forget, accept…

…But whatever you do, try not to vent.

When an ex-boyfriend broke up with me two years ago, the time I didn’t spend crying and listening to Adele, was spent recounting all of his repulsive and annoying tendencies to my friends.

When I wasn’t making fun of his terrible fashion sense or that unfortunate “surfing accident” scar (cough cough, it was really just a birthmark, cough cough), I was waging my own personal war against his new girlfriend. Venting about my failed relationship had become an addiction that I just couldn’t kick.

I thought that venting about my problems would make me feel better at the time, but looking back on it, my venting just brought about more bad feelings. According to a study at Kent University, those who vent about stressful events in their lives can actually do more harm to themselves than good in getting those feelings out.  “Venting is not an effective strategy for anyone trying to cope,” said Ohio State University professor Brad Bushman in an article by TODAY Health.