Today, my roommate and I have sworn off guys for good. And what kind of women would we be at this point if we didn’t turn on the TV desperately hoping for a funny sitcom or movie to be on to distract us from our hopeless situations? Conveniently enough, E! is playing “He’s Just Not That Into You”. Ha, this is such a cruel, cruel world.
The romantic comedy only stings because the truth of the matter, is that he is just not that into me, or you, or her, or any female friend that is nothing more than a late night text, right? Or is that wrong? Are we over-reading and misinterpreting signals from guys? Is it right to write them off as douche bags when they are just as confused as we are?
This crazy confusion typically comes into play in friends with benefits situations. The two of you sleep together and he doesn’t text you the next day so, boom, he’s automatically one of “those guys” only after “one thing and one thing only.” That’s how most young females see it, and understandably so. If you two don’t talk as much as you fool around, then he is not after anything more than a late night smoosh buddy. But, what if he is just as confused by the hookup situation as you are? Many guys wait for us to text them first, because they don’t exactly know what to say, and don’t see it fit to continuously talk to a female they haven’t deemed as their girlfriend. Also, be conscious of the fact that if you initiate sex just as avidly as he does, and will text him at similar hours for such deeds, he could see the relationship as simply just platonic hook-up buddies, even if he wants more.
Listen ladies; moral of the story is to take it for what it is. There is no point in trying to over analyze a good or fun situation. If you two enjoy one another’s company, and have fun hooking up, then what’s the problem with being sex friends? As long as you don’t find yourself writing out his last name on your LIT notebook, then you should be in the clear.
Ride it out and soon enough, it will be clear whether the two of you are Ashton Kutcher and Natalie Portman sex-friends, or just looking for different things.