In honor of National Coming Out Day, held annually on Oct. 11th, the LGBT Resource Center, along with the Division of Student Affairs, publishes an Out/Ally List in the Daily Orange. The Out list features the names of those who openly identify with the LGBTQ community. The Ally list is a separate record of LGBT allies, defined by a held belief that those in the LGBTQ community are “healthy and normal.”
As a gay male, this need for distinction between LGBTQ’s and A’s is disheartening. The need was confirmed when an informal survey was done by the LGBT Resource Center in 2006. The center found that “two-thirds of the respondents preferred separate lists as opposed to one combined list.” Apparently “some individuals would not feel comfortable or be willing to sign the list(s).”
The “(s)” at the end of that sentence is superfluous. I’m 110% positive that the only people who wouldn’t feel comfortable including their names on a combined list were our straight “allies”—and perhaps the .05% of the LGBT community who suffer from heterophobia—afraid of the sexual ambiguity that such a monolithic grouping would provoke.
Welcome to the deliciously complicated world of identity politics that distinguishes the LGBT community from other stigmatized groups. Unlike race and ethnicity, which gets worn tangibly on ones skin and facial features, sexuality operates beneath surfaces. Contrary to popular belief, there is no quantifiable “look,” or scarlet letter if you will, that distinguishes someone’s sexuality. For LGBT and straight people alike, this would make certain things easier, distilling constant debates about who’s in, and who’s out. But it’d fail to recognize the amorphous underpinnings of sexuality and desire that shape the LGBT community, i.e., “straight” men who are only gay at night, women who are lesbians for only seven months out of every year, bisexual’s for the other five.
In a society obsessed with labels and fixity, we deal with this quagmire of sexuality and gender through assertion. It is in the way many straight men walk past women on Marshall St. with a, “Yoooo! Check that shit out!” accompanied with the not-so-subtle head turn to let their boys know, “yeah, I’m straight.” It’s in the way facebook provides an “Interested In” feature on profiles, so you can let the world wide web know: “I am a man and I LOVE PUSSY!” And it’s in the way parameters are set within a LGBTQA “community” between LGBTQ’s, and their allies.
I love my straight allies, but I question why the LGBT Resource Center is pandering to heterosexual’s “comfort” level in LGBT-related events. Last time I checked, weren’t we the ones being oppressed? Also, is it even possible to sign something that reads, “I affirm my commitment to confront all forms of homophobia, biphobia, and transphobia and to interrupt gender norm conformity and heteronormativity,” and then request that your name be put on a separate list, without sorely contradicting yourself?
~ M. Kuga






